The wind is blowing, the sun is kinda shining and I’m not wearing a parka. What a great Friday! The following tale is not for the faint of heart and one not wishing to lay witness to the winds of change. An emotional upheaval of a woman fraught with anguish, ire and scant hormones that have left her (me) with little else but to rant and rave to the Gods of the Universe to bestow patience and lots of wine. Here you go….
The inevitable is careening at me like a Denzel Washington train of disaster and I can’t move out of the way fast enough. I’ve ranted and raved, threw my fist in the air to protest the injustices of errant hormones and still I’ve been relegated to bowing my head in disbelief and wanton despair. Approaching 52 has never been so tumultuous. I imagine. I’ve never approached 52 before and never will again, for that matter. Good thing. I’ve had to reel in my tongue lest the innocent bystanders fall victim to my raging Norma Rae pontifications. A little dramatic, I realize but that’s how it is these days. I’ve had to remind myself that someone being a little late is not an ‘idiot’ or a ‘fucking moron’ or anything other than just being late. I’ve had to remind my body that I’M NOT THAT OLD, M*&^*F**&^CKER AND I CAN DO IT IF I WANT TO. OR, maybe I should take a few days off and think about it.
I was forced to counsel Hubby on the upcoming personality disorder that will be defined as his former wife, due to the unfortunate incident of him answering my plea of being rescued from a place of employment with a curt ‘no’. WHAT DO YOU MEAN NO?! It started and thereto began the Great Conflict of Summer 2018 when Hubby had the audacity to suggest I keep my car and let D2 walk. THE ABSOLUTE NERVE TO THINK I COULD KEEP MY OWN CAR. With the windows open widely so the ‘hood could partake in the banter and loud yelling of I CAN NEVER BE ANGRY BECAUSE YOU JUST GET ANGRY THEN EVERYONE IS ANGRY. NO, YOU’RE OUT OF ORDER AND THIS WHOLE PLACE IS OUT OF ORDER AND WHY AM I QUOTING AN OLD 70’S MOVIE AND JUST LET ME BE ME FOR ONCE!!! GAWWWWDDDD. Yes, a teenager-proud moment was never heard so well and as renowned as the plea for my emotional independence. I Lost. My. Shit. What. The. Actual. Fuck was wrong with me?
I ranted on D2 about how she was driving too fast and if she doesn’t slow the fuck down, I’m getting out of the car and walking because I can’t take this shit. I later drove the car to her employment place only to begin my long walk home. Stalking along the street, I was determined that if a truck driver manning a semi with a lady tattoo and a penchant for beer stopped and offered me a ride home, I may agree. A true moment of being a statistic on a milk carton, only display that pic of me on a wine bottle so my friends could actually know I was missing. WHO DRINKS MILK AFTER THE AGE OF 40? A few minutes later, she stops aside the road pick me up along the way to say I was being ridiculous. RIDICULOUS. ME??
No, I was being emotionally independent of all the fuck that’s happening in the world and LETS GET COFFEE AND COOKIES, DAMMIT.
Because coffee and cookies are like the meth of menopause. I use the ‘M’ word with bated breath and downcast eyes, lest I look directly at it and it blinds me. I’m not entirely within its grasp, but rather on the outskirts, stealing fearful glances at its promise of further rages with opened windows and moments of hitchhiking with semis. She carefully throws cookies at me like feeding a rabid dog and fearful of her hand being bitten.
I now know why divorce rates rise at this stage of life. I HAVE LOST MY FUCKING MIND.
I have come to the ultimate conclusion that this is my life for now and I have to filter my reactions to people’s utter lack of understanding and their predominant ability to be stupid. I have to ask Hubby if what I just replied to someone could be construed as ‘snippy’ or ‘sarcastic’?? Me??? Or if I’m in ‘that mood’ now and should just try to shut up and stop talking? Look the other way? Turn the other cheek? I have to ask a neutral party if I’m being nasty or logical. It sounds perfectly okay to me…but, apparently, it isn’t. I’m not. So, distract me by turning my attention to the shiny things and appease me with glasses of wine or chocolate. Pretty soon I’ll be locking myself in a bathroom so I can’t wield hurtful words or ‘snippy’ retorts (that I’ve come to know and love) at random people with seemingly good intentions and no idea that the nasty ‘M’ is wreaking havoc.
Pass the cookies and the coffee. The vat of wine over there is keeping me from wielding an axe and jumping aboard a semi with strangers… If I go missing, put a nice picture of me on that bottle of red Merlot. It’s the least you could do….