I was debating how to start this one, as it’s fraught with euphemisms and ‘life is like a box of chocolate’ kind of sayings. It’s challenging and scary and moving forward is always hard. Children become adults without even blinking and suddenly university is over and moving out is on the horizon. And not just moving across town. Moving across the country. Moving to another province, another time zone, another way of life. Ugh. When did I give birth to adults? This is a lot harder than they told me. I don’t remember anybody saying that moving on would be harder on the parents than the adult-seeming children from whom I wiped snot from their runny noses and caught their vomit in buckets and chauffeured them to dance classes and guitar lessons and Tae Kwon Do sessions and even the occasional hockey-from-hell practices. Christmas presents are no longer dolls or toys or games, but dishes for their new apartments, or new bedding for the new beds or gas cards to get them across the province. We don’t eat supper together every night because one is running to work then class, another is running from class to work and the third one is preparing his four thousand word essay on the bombing of Hiroshima and can I possibly let him eat in his room tonight? Gawd, where did these people come from?
The daughters will be finishing up university in the Spring which has brought discussions of Chapter 3 into the round table. Everybody wants to be supportive, but with applications flying from one end of the country to the other, my nerves are starting to fray. I’ve got one with ambitions of working in Intelligence and one nursing in a warmer climate. I’ve got the other one applying for unis in Ontario and BC and then saying ‘well, you know I have to think about Medical school down the road.’ MEDICAL SCHOOL???!!! WHO ARE YOU?! WHERE’S MY LITTLE BOY WHO SPILLED CHEERIOS ON THE FLOOR AND REFUSED TO SPEAK UNTIL HE WAS THREE AND SANG ‘INAPPROPRIATE’ SONGS TO HIS GRADE ONE TEACHER?!! * As a side, they weren’t really ‘inappropriate’, but when your kid goes to school singing “Save a horse, ride a cowboy” you get a call….
I had a long discussion with co-worker who has been through this with his son and he was very good at allaying my fears. “She’ll be fine. She’ll land on her feet. It will work out.” Okay, I’ll nod and trust you are right.
In the meantime, I’ll be around the house looking at old photos and lamenting the times the children were children and asking for friends to come over to play barbies and making snow forts in the backyard and NOT looking to get as far away from me as possible…